There is an old saying used mostly by men who feel rejected, “Nice guys finish last.” The reality of the situation is that the “nice guy” who is feeling rejected lacked in other areas that are equally important as being nice. Seriously, if a nice guy was “all that” why would he be rejected?
“Nice guys” and “Bad boys are terms separated by descriptions such as the “nice guy” being dependable, trust worthy, sweet, considerate but boring. The “bad boy” is described as being intoxicating, exuberant, wildly fun but not trustworthy.
There is no doubt that women are attracted to the sex appeal that is typically found in the “bad boy” persona. Once the peak of arousal has been obtained however is another story. Reality sets in and women realize that something is not right. The same is true with women who meet the “nice guy.” A women is attracted to the “nice guy” because he is sensitive, sweet, seemingly caring, and honest. It doesn’t take long to realize there is something missing.
Each has qualities that attract women but without a balance the relationship is not likely to last. So what do women really want? Women want a healthy balance of qualities found in the “nice guy” and the “bad boy.”
Confidence: There can be a fine line between confidence and cockiness. Confidence is seldom found in the stereotypical “nice guy” whereas it is found in abundance with most “bad boys.” Confidence is a feeling of being secure with ones abilities. This does not mean confident men do not experience fear or self-doubt but they are realistic about their abilities and honest when it comes to something they are not familiar with.
Intelligence – or at least a reasonable sense of what is right and wrong. While its ok to party till the bar closes it is not ok when a woman has to carry her man home because he doesn’t have common sense enough to know how much is enough.
Interested: Women want men who are genuinely interested in her mind, body and soul – not just her body. Women want men who care about her desires and needs because they truly care about her not just so they can get what they want. It eventually becomes evident when a man only seems to care about his women long enough to get what he wants. While it is normal that men and women will have different interest it does not mean that each can’t show interest in the other person’s interest to at least some degree.
Not controlling: Men – this does not mean you should let your woman walk all over you. Have enough backbone to know when to stand your ground and enough intelligence to know when that time is. Just because individuals join in some sort of union be it marriage, living together, or a committed dating relationship it does not mean we lose our individual desires or needs. These desires or needs should be respected even if they clash with your own. A general rule of thumb is that if it doesn’t hurt me to do this for you or for you to do this then I should not interfere. Now ladies – remember you cannot always have what you want because credit card debt is damaging to you both.
Safety: Safety or the sense of safety comes in a variety of form. Some women find security in a man with money while others find it with a man will physical strength and the ability to use it. It will not matter how much money or physical strength he has there is no true security of the relationship is not secure.
Men – you will be surprised in how if all the before mentioned qualities are in place you will see great success in all other areas such as the ability to have fun together because if you show an interest in what she likes to do she will do the same for you and maybe you will even find new interest together. Also when the above qualities are in place your sex life will show great improve, as she will have less reason to not want to be with you. The above qualities are very sexually appealing to most if not all women.
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